- **Tip 1: Stay Calm** - Importance: Essential for parents to control their own emotions as children lack emotional regulation. - Technique: Breathe deeply through your nose, hold for 5-10 seconds, then exhale slowly through your mouth, taking twice as long to exhale as to inhale. - Benefit: Helps calm the brain's fight or flight response, enabling better emotional regulation when dealing with a stubborn child.

- **Tip 2: Remember What You Control** - Concept: Parents should focus on controlling what they can and recognize what they can't control.

 - Application: Identify what you control (e.g., services provided, access to certain household items) and avoid power struggles over things you don't control. - Rule Framework:   - Avoid power struggles where possible.   - Win unavoidable power struggles by focusing on controllable aspects.   - Empower children's choices and navigate control dynamics effectively.

- **Tip 3: Empower What They Control** - Principle: Recognize that children have control over their own choices. - Strategy: Acknowledge their choices and empower them instead of lying or misrepresenting the control dynamics.

 - Example: If a child wants something you don't allow, acknowledge their ability to choose while making clear your limits, e.g., denying permission but letting them decide if they'll go against it. - Outcome: Reduces deceit, respects their autonomy, and ensures consistent follow-through with consequences.

- **Tip 4: Listen Rather Than Argue** - Approach: Avoid confrontations by transforming potential arguments into dialogues.

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